5 Ways tO Kill Your Relationship
There are a lot of things that can go wrong in a relationship…it’s almost depressing how many of them end each day, and sometimes for the dumbest, most avoidable reasons. If you think your relationship may be in danger, or are wondering what went wrong in your recent ex-relationship, take a look at the list I’ve made here. These are the top 5 “no-no’s” of relationships.
1) Cheating on your partner. Absolutely inexcusable, and both guys and girls do it. I can’t even tell you how many times my friends’ and family’s hearts have been utterly ripped from their chests because the people they love cheated on them. Being unfaithful shatters trust and causes the person being cheated on to doubt his or herself. If you love your partner, you love him or her enough not to cheat. If you can’t control your sex drive enough to stay faithful to the love of your life, then you’re nothing more than a subhuman animal and you deserve to be alone.
2) Being too controlling. Sure it’s funny on TV when a professional comedian plays a hapless, good-natured guy with an evil witch of a wife who calls him every fifteen minutes to demand to know where he is…but in the real world that’s not funny, it’s exhausting. Don’t think I’m just talking about women being too demanding either…guys do it too, and it’s not a joke, it’s not cute, and it’s not justified. It’s emotional abuse is what it is, and a lack of trust that’s going to end up with you being quite lonely.
3) Not providing the emotional support your partner needs. I know, it’s another movie cliche, this one usually in “chick flicks.” We’ve grown so used to seeing it in movies that we often don’t recognize it happening in real life or understand its impact on those we love. Having the love of your life not seem to really care about how you feel is a horrible thing that can cripple self-esteem in some people and really set others off. This can mostly be avoided just by listening to your partner, truly listening. Both guys and ladies need to feel like they matter to their partners, so don’t let down the one you care about.
4) Allowing fights and lovers’ quarrels to come outside their place in a relationship. Every time two people are put together in trying conditions for any period of time, a little conflict is going to occur. It’s healthy, it’s natural…it gets the air cleared and enlightens us as to what’s making our partners unhappy, and by knowing it we can fix it. What you DON’T want is to turn a fight into a war where cruel things are slung about, feelings are hurt, and relationships are unraveled. Accept that there will be fights, but don’t let them break you two apart…excessive conflict and stress ruins a lot of relationships, so don’t let yours be one of them.
5) Boredom and lack of spontanaeity. I feel physical pain every time I hear about a happy couple breaking up because the relationship became stale and boring. There is so very little reason why your time with the one you love should end up becoming more of a day-to-day routine than a constant joy. Do what’s needed to make things stay interesting and fun! You’re two great people in love, why shouldn’t every day together be a blessing? Letting a relationship reach its expiration date should be a crime, because it’s just such a tragic waste…
These are the five top “destroyers” of relationships…and most of them should never have a chance to ruin anybody’s relationship because they’re just ridiculous. Respectively, each one of these problems could be easily avoided by having just a little loyalty, trust, consideration, coolness of mind, and dedication! These are things I’d expect any happy couple to have…without them you’ll be lonely and in pain, as will the person you love.
So before you do something that’ll jeopardize your relationship, stop and think. Is it really worth it to hurt your partner and become alone? Have a brain, and have a heart.
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